Monday, April 7, 2008

This Isn't The Life I Ordered!

This is what I specifically remember ordering when I was 5 years old, I told the waitress:

"I'd like to place an order, I'd like a husband by the time I'm 26, I'd like to have 3 kids by 30; I'll take a boy, a girl, and then it doesn't matter.

I'd like to be a stay at home Mom, or work for a Company where I have great benefits and 6 weeks vacation a year."
I also remember ordering a big house, a nice backyard with a pool, a dog. and two beautiful cars. I also told the waitress I wanted my family and I to be happy and healthy!
I mean come on; I know it was a big order but really, was it too much to ask for? And you ask how many of those things did she bring me... ZERO...But I shouldn't really be complaining because I am happy and healthy for the most part (I mean when the little kids at school aren't sneezing on me, putting their fingers in their mouth and then grabbing my hand, or picking thier nose and poking at me.)

I do have a wonderful boyfriend - we've been together for awhile now - some refer to it as "Living Together with No Bling!!" But I can't complain - I'm not one of these girls who puts on ulitmatium an their guy.. I hate that!! I'd rather be with him, then without, and I want him to propose to me because he wants to, not because he feels forced to, ya know!! We love each other very much, which is most important.. It'll happen when we both have enough money and are ready to take that step!

So no marriage means I'm not geting those kids I ordered.. Which is also ok.. Working with children everyday is really GREAT birth control!! No, seriously, I mean it!! You teachers understand what I'm saying, right? Being with 16 little ones everyday, for 7 hours straight can really test your patience..." Besides after teacher I think I'll start with 1 kid and see how it goes from there..(And I can't complain - Brian and I LOVE to sleep in - are you parents out there with little ones jealous?) LOL - just kidding!

So no kids means I'm not a stay at home Mom.. But I do work at a place where I get lots of vacation time (SUMMERS OFF - YAY!!!!) But for some reason I'm always left wanting more and more vacation time..
But don't we all? Unfortunately, I don't get the greatest
benefits though, Grrr...

I'm sure the big house, backyard with a pool, two beautiful cars, and cute dog will all come in time.. The most important thing is that I'm with the one I love, I'm happy and healthy, I have a wonderful family and friends.. I just need to work on a better job that makes me happy and offers great benefits!!...

Sorry for the rant and rave - but it's been on my mind and I wanted to share my childhood order with all of you!!


Hope everyone has a wonderful week - and may the weekend be here before we know it!


Lori said...

I could have written that same post 5 years ago...well expect the live-in part. I always was goal oriented and getting married by 25 was the first goal I missed... but let me tell you I met my husband when I was 30, married at 31 and now I'm almost 35 (eeeeekkkk!) I have a 16 month old and one on the way.

I too was a teacher and now am a stay-at-home mom... with the house, dog and 2 cars

sooo the time frame maybe off, but don't give up hope that you will attain your order

Future Mom said...

I ordered a rich husband - didn't get that

also wanted 2 kids before I'm 30 - i'll be lucky to be preggers with the first one by 30 (if i'm lucky)

and the big house with 2 dogs-got a small house & chewy

but i guess you've got to start somewhere...i am happy with what i have for now

plus when I was in grammar school I specifically remember telling my mom I wanted to be a garbage man for a living (not sure why i didn't want garbage woman but whatever)...the reason was so I could ride on the back of the truck which seemed cool at the time

i'm glad I didnt end up with that job because I have no upper body strength-but i hear they have great pay & benefits so maybe someday LOL

SaraLynn said...

LOL! Yep, I am jealous of the sleeping in part! and I was thinking I might want another
baby(?!), but after keeping my brother's one year old twin girls this weekend,,,,no thanks! You are right GREAT birth control...hahaha!

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TheVasquez3 said...

giiiiiiirl!! i think EVERY one can relate (even just a little bit) to what you are talking about here. i am 37 and married for the 3rd time and just now feel like i am in a relationship that will last forever, so i feel good about bringing some kids into it. life is NEVER what we expect...but i must say that even with the heartache and disapointments i would do it all over again if it meant i would end up where i am now. happily married to a wonderful man who brought a beautiful little girl into my life to mother and love. i KNOW with all my heart this is a match made in heaven, they were meant for me and i was meant for them. so if the other stuff i "ordered" doesn't happen...i am cool with that.

Christy said...

You'll get there eventually. We all have a list like this. But it is hard to obtain everything you want by your late twenties!

I really want a bigger house. But houses are insanely expensive in New Jersey!

30 Minute Mommy said...

I am not sure if I ordered this life or not. I think even when you get the life you ordered- it may not be what you really wanted after all. You have to do what feels right for you at the time- ya know. Everything has a way of working out in the end.

Heather has a lot of upper body strength. What is she talking about? haha

Anonymous said...

Yeah, I don't think this is the life I ordered, either. But I'm enjoying the little surprises that came up along the way.

And I definitely agree with you on the working with kids being good birth control. I was a camp counselor for four years, and it is still working! While I love kids, I realize I am nowhere near who I should be to become a mother. That'll be a while later...

Katelin said...

i think we all asked for that order at one point, haha.

Pam said...

You are so right about the sleeping in sleeping in around here and boy do I miss it!

You are right- if you are happy and healthy, the rest will come in its own time. Hope your weekend (and min!) comes fast!

Marni Tiani Self said...

You are adorable! :) I loved your order. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. :)

Melanie said...

I could have written this post a few years ago. Especially once I got the hubby but couldn't get pregnant. I missed my goal of having 2 or 3 kids by the time I turned 30 because it took so long for me to get pregnant. But, I'm sure you'll get your dream one day... until then enjoy that sleeping in part. Once the kids arrive the sleeping in is gone.
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Amber said... really said it...I felt the same way...but my ages were several years earlier! I still dream of a slightly different life..I want to be home with my baby!