Thursday, March 5, 2009

Think About it Thursday

Think About It Thursday
Think about this:
You're out to dinner with your boyfriend at a kind of an out of the way place that you've never been to before. You're sitting getting ready to order when you notice this familar looking guy at the table in the back. Then you look a little closer and realize yes, you do know that guy, he's your friends boyfriend. Then you glance across the table and notice that the girl sitting with him isn't your friend. And they're holding hands!! Your mouth drops in amazement and you don't know what to do!! And you know that it isn't a friendly "friend" dinner date cause you see them hold hands across the table. But your girl friend isn't a best friend, she's more of an acquaintance. And her boyfriend did see you having dinner at the same restaurant.
So i ask you.... What do you do? Do you say something, do you stay quiet, do you approach the table. What would you do?

15 comments:

Lori said...

I think it would depend on how well I knew the guy. If I was friendly with the guy, I would say hi, and go from there. If I didn't know him well, I think I'd just leave it there as far as him.

as for telling her... I think I'd have to say... would I want her to tell me or not? and go from there

it's such a hard thing and if you tell your friend she could be upset with you for saying something, but if you don't she could get upset if she finds out you knew and didn't say anything

in other words... I don't know what you should do

Danielle said...

If I was very friendly I would go over for sure. If not I'd give a little wave and that is all. As for telling her- she would probably get mad at me and not him. I think she wouold probab;e already have a clue soemthign was up...and would need to deal with it in her own time.

Gwen said...

My solution...carry a camera at all times. Then you can snap a photo of the "happy couple" and you'll have proof should you ever need it. As far as telling the friend I would because I'm extremely open about things like that. That's why I get the phone calls at 2:00 in the morning asking my opinions on boyfriends texting other girls. :)

Great question!!! {HUGS}

jen.at.work said...

I'd like to say that I'd waltz over there, say hello and introduce myself and ask if he wanted to tell his girlfriend where he was tonight, or if I should?

But in reality, I'd sit there in disbelief, walk by and give him a nasty look on my way by - something that says and later play dumb.

Matt said...

I'd take a picture using my phone and use it as blackmail for $1000.

a H.I.T. said...

I think it depends on how well you know the guy and the girl. Maybe they're taking a break? Maybe they have an open relationship but are mum about it? Maybe none of the above and he's a bastard? Either way, it never helps anyone when you jump to conclusions. Snap a quick camera pic and next time your talking to your friend, find out where things stand in the relationship. Then, take it from there.

Pam said...

Wow! Going right for the tough questions! If I knew the guy I would go up and basically ask him what the heck is going on. If not, I wouldn't say anything. As far as telling her- I would want someone to tell me- so I would want to tell her, but it would be SO hard!

sequined said...

I think I would plan to stay quiet and say nothing, but in real life I'm sure I'd ask my friends questions like, "are they still together" and "what do you think of him" and stuff. Because I'm nosy.

Louise said...

I think if I was in that situation I would tell the friend, that is a tough thing I guess it depends also how good you know the friend....
did this actually happen to you?? nosy nellie needs to know..lol

Shoebee said...

I probably would soy something to my friend like, "So, when did you and ..... breakup?" When she said that they didn't and why you would say something like that, I would respond something like, "I just assumed you did, since I say ..... at resturant with a girl last night and they looked like they were on a date." But that is just me.

Kate said...

This happened to me once, actually. I knew a friend's girlfriend was cheating on him - actually, everyone knew - and I didn't know how to tell him, but I REALLY thought he deserved better & was very upset. I decided to write HER a letter telling her that people knew what was going on & that if she didn't tell him soon, I would figure out a way to.

Unfortunately, I chickened out & didn't send the letter. I worked with both of them & was afraid it'd blow up in my face somehow, that he would find out I'd gotten involved & would resent me for it.

Someone else had a similar idea, though, actually, & apparently one day he received an anonymous email saying that his girlfriend had been sleeping around.

Apparently they're still together... but at least someone tried. Sometimes I still wish I had.

Auburn Kat said...

I think I would mention it to my friend in passing. Ultimately the ball is in their court and it's up to them if they want to investigate in to it...

Amanda. said...

Ack. Tough. I wouldn't approach the table. Because I have too big of a mouth and would make too much of a scene. I would DEFINITELY tell the friend though. No matter how close. I'd want to know...so I figure the friend would as well. I would simply tell her exactly what I saw...and would expect someone to let me know if they saw my boyfriend in the same situation-so you're just doing the girl thing. She can take it however she wants to. And well, I'd feel SO much better getting it off my chest.

Sarah Elizabeth said...

Ohhh this happened to my cousin recently. I wouldn't approach the table, but I would definitely tell the friend. Whethere she is a close friend or not, I'm a firm believer in bringing this sort of thing to one's attention.

Mama Smurf said...

I sure hope this didn't actually happen to you...cuz, um...that would really suck!

If it were one of my closest friends then I think I would let him know that I saw him and give him the chance to tell my friend himself but let him know that if he doesn't tell her I will. But even that sucks because most of my closest friends I am also very close with their husbands. So. Easy to say. But difficult to do.